A pity party’s nothing without company, I will admit to that. But, there is a line to cross, and I think it’s time that more people start drawing it more often. Lately, I’ve found that my friends, whether it’s over a bad grade or two, dissatisfaction with their appearance, a relationship gone awry, or something else just as human, just won’t sort out their issues. Sure, in those cases I too would love to have a pity party for myself, and I often do. Though the difference between a pity party and a weeklong bash of self-loathing is a bigger gap than even a pint of ice cream can fill, and why anyone would go for the latter, willingly, I can’t figure out why. I’ve seen people have enough pick me ups thrown at them that they should be floating on cloud nine for all the attention they’ve received, and still, only a bad mood blossoms. What do you get from clinging to a bad mood? I know something that you won’t get for broadcasting it to the world, and that’s respect.
- Eric
Archive for the ‘Existential Crises’ Category
Being Depressed and Wanting to Be
Thursday, November 3rd, 2011
May I Have a Bit of Change?
Tuesday, June 28th, 2011
I know that it seems hard to accept change in situations around yourself, but I think it’s even more difficult, for the most part, to accept change from within. I find that the two are highly connected, as I find myself coming into conflict with my friends more than ever, as a result of one which leads to the other. To better yourself, emotionally, or even physically, is an arduous task in itself. Maybe that’s why it hurts more when people can’t accept it, accept you, because they don’t think that it is “you”. I’m changing, I can feel it, and I know for sure that it’s for the better; I’m sure that plenty of you are changing in the same way; you’re encountering the same resistance from your friends, aren’t you? Whether you resolve to never be bullied again, or to never cry for the sake of it, it’s for you, and I just think that if that option can do more good for yourself, you take it. Despite what we may think, people are rather selfless in even choosing to interact with others, if you look at it in a certain way. You could be a loner, but you allow people to sit by your side. Let’s hope they’ll allow you that bit of change.
- Eric
Wake Up, Dreamer
Tuesday, June 7th, 2011
It’s one thing to daydream; it’s an entirely different story to dream with your eyes open. I praise the people that know when to stop, but then at the same time, as they flaunt it themselves, don’t you just get the urge to knock them off of their pedestal? Know your limits, I think that’s an important skill to have, not because I think people should deprecate themselves, but that they should know your worth. Playing to your own strengths is worth much more than trying to take on someone else’s; knowing when your daydreams are merely that is worth everything. It’s painful to watch people realize dreams and fail, but after a point, it’s hard to care anymore. I think all these attempts just end in bad relations when people don’t know when to just stop. Look at all the catty confrontations over relationships, or the anger that comes from the competition of being second best in grades that’s gone on, for some, since kindergarten. If you ever feel like you’re in the back seat, don’t try to drive the car. Get yourself a new one; follow your own path.
- Eric
Life Purpose
Thursday, May 19th, 2011
Have you ever asked yourself what the purpose of your existence is? What is your mission in this life time and what do you want to get done before you die? The sense of purpose is very important. Many of us are often troubled by the lack of a sense of purpose in our life. We wander and wonder about our future. We try to define our voice in this society and live through that journey. Some are not conscious enough about themselves that they could never define their roles, thus only function but not truly live. Spend some time to think it through. You do not have to have the right answer today. You are, in fact, very likely to change your answers to those questions in the future. But it will be helpful if you actively seek out the mission of your life today. You will be more aware of yourself and the opportunities around you.
- Phy