In dealing with friends sometimes, isn’t it so frustrating at times when you just can’t “get it right”? The words that need to be said won’t come to you, but every other one would love to; it’s as if whatever common sense you have about friendships, or even relationships, has flown out the window, and you feel like you just want to take the plunge right after it. I don’t know about for your guys, but mending a broken relationship, friendly or otherwise, is one of the most terrifying things that I could ever put on my to-do list, right behind admitting that there’s the possibility that, somewhere in there, I’ve gone wrong. I think the fear behind it is that if it can go far enough to require time apart the split can reach far enough to separate, splintered earth and all, because that’s just how violently the emotions flew. I always put so much worth in being the bigger person in situations like this, probably because it’s so easy to at times, though I think sometimes, rather than doing it for the sake of the other person, be the bigger person and actually see just what hand you played in this natural disaster we like to call friendship. Uncover your own fears of messing it up by admitting a fault to yourself. In the end it all makes “getting it right”, making it right, feel so right. I’ve tried it recently, we’ll see how it plays out soon enough. Opinions?
- Eric
Archive for the ‘Friends’ Category
Get It Right
Thursday, August 4th, 2011
Getting Over It
Saturday, July 30th, 2011
Relationships are always fun while they last. Sometimes our friends get into relationships and we may be happy for them. They ask us for advice and any tips that we might have on how to make a relationship stronger or if there is a problem at hand. As friends we are there for them for every up and down. Then when the bad times come along we have to be there for support. If it is a break-up, the process might be a difficult one. Yet, it feels like it is our duty to cheer our friend up. We must find ways to make our friend happy. For girls ice cream and a girls night out does the trick. The little things always make us feel better. It is always good to be in the comfort of our best friends. For boys, I’m no expert but a guy’s night out can also do the trick. I believe everyone needs a friend and time for healing after a breakup.
- Tatiana
Respecting Differences
Tuesday, July 26th, 2011
All too often, I see people that have differences and would rather let them bring anger and negative conflict rather than handle them maturely. I wonder what spurns people to do this. I know humans have inherent judment but does that mean that you must be negative to someone else? I don’t think so. Just because you disagree with someone does not mean that you have to degrade or disregard them. This is what I see most often when people argue. The fear that they hold about being wrong or that the other person is doing wrong overrides and forms anger. I think that this is unnecessary because no matter what someone else thinks they are not you. You make your own decisions and don’t have to be part of anothers action. Therefore, if you have so much disagreement with someone that you cant bear it, leave. I just want people to realize that no matter how much you tell someone what is right, it is up to them to make the judgement for themselves to take it into them or not. I see all this pointless negative interaction and I wonder sometimes if people just like to argue. I think it is necessary to form rational opinions but I don’t think we need to argue about things that are so fruitless. So in the end, I think that if you are to argue, try to do so in a respectful way. If you cannot then perhaps consider not doing so.
- Kevin
Giving Pain A Voice
Thursday, July 7th, 2011
I have been attending a poetry group designed to give a voice and outlet to the homeless and other struggling individuals that they otherwise would not have. Recently they lost their funding and they were forced to stop this group. Unfortunately, the biggest struggle for homeless and runaway youth is feeling that they have a voice or influence. This hurt me deeply. I felt like I was losing my voice again and suffered writers block. To cope with this I came to the realization that their work did not have to stop. It could live on if I keep what they taught me alive. I wanted to share this with all of you because I believe that loss is not going away any time soon. Therefore, we must learn how to make the better of it. To do so I started teaching an art class at the same place the workshops I had attend took place. This helped me feel like I had influence and like I was giving back a voice too. I also practice the techniques that they taught me and have been attending other poetry workshops. This same method I feel could be applied to other forms of loss. The focus is to not let what was meaningful to you just disappear. Grab a hold of it and spread it further. I have dealt also with my friend’s death and I had to take all of what she had taught me, all the memories and decide not to let them be destructive pain to me. Rather I had to use them as inspiration. This is how loss can be turned into a growth and continuance.
- Kevin