Each of us forms different ideals of beauty. These are most often, what drives us to excel and triumph. We all know the story. When something difficult is going on keep a hold of something beautiful and it will help you through it. One way of doing this is countering an awful feeling. When you just do not feel satisfaction, you can use memories or creative projects to realign your focus. In addition, if you struggle as I do with controlling your anger, it is useful to have a stock memory or idea or belief that you can hold onto and use as inspiration or a reason not to escalate. I also struggle with anxiety, and this tool of using beauty to aid in clear thinking is especially helpful with this. When I feel overwhelmed, I can take just a moment and picture whatever makes me feel peaceful or keep a goal in mind that gives me something to strive towards. It is a theory of mine that without this beauty none of us would try for anything and that the pain is sometimes a way of reminding us of this beauty. Sometimes even in the worst times just looking at a flower or remembering you can still breathe can mean the difference between utter devastation and triumph. Therefore, I ask this boon of you. Please try to think every day of just one thing you are living for and all the better if you can think of more. In fact, I encourage you to apply as many of these beauties and goals into your thinking as you can because the more time you think about them the less time you have to think about the potentially dreary outcomes.
- Kevin
Posts Tagged ‘Feelings’
Staying Positive
Tuesday, July 5th, 2011
Say My Name
Thursday, June 23rd, 2011
As I stand around a group of friends, with compliments flying here and there, about every name is on the radar, slathered with tales of accomplishments and praises; and I wonder, why doesn’t anyone ever say mine? With my friends I’m the butt of every joke, the one that they can’t take seriously, but the one ear that they pour their life stories down at every chance that they get. I’m not sure how many people that find themselves in the same boat, the ones with enough shyness to have borne it for so long, and probably will for the rest of our lives. This boat also includes finding out indirectly what people actually value about you, and leaves me wondering each and every day just what’s so hard about a compliment in passing, especially when all most do is attempt to fish them out of me. I’d like to know what’s good about me rather than what’s there to make fun of, and I’m sure that I’m not the only one out there that feels this way. I’d never like to toot my own horn; when I do things that I’m truly proud of, I don’t have to, though it stings a bit to have to think that no one’s even noticed. Don’t say a name because you think someone’s attractive, or just because you like them; say a name because you think the person deserves the praise, but make sure it doesn’t go to their head. Spread those names around, alright?
- Eric
Getting Back On Your Feet
Monday, May 30th, 2011
For many people, encountering a traumatic or life changing event is enough to debilitate them for a long period of time. It is necessary for them to get back on their feet and move on with their lives as soon as they can. Everyone will encounter problems in their lives, no matter how big or how small — the important thing is getting over it and moving on. Some bigger events may be harder to get over but once you do, the smaller problems might end up seeming like a breeze when you get some of those after overcoming a big problem. People around them may have to provide support in order for this to happen although some individuals can get over things very well on their own. Each individual has a different way of coping with their problems — maybe your way of coping will lead to new opportunities or maybe it’ll help you understand yourself better. But the best way is to confront them and not avoid them. I know the mentality; it doesn’t help.
- Vivian
Anger
Monday, May 23rd, 2011
Researches have shown that people who are buried in grief can normally find an escape through helping others; or those who are in a big mess help themselves by get others out of theirs; or those who find the world all against them can be, instead, embraced by the world by trying to embrace others. Many of us, younger people, are more easily disappointed -we become angry easily and due to our abundant energy, our behaviors can progress into something more self-destructive, which might in effect lead our lives to a huge mess. When you are angry, try to channel your energy to something positive and productive – dancing, arts, music, or whatever your passion is. It is one of the more effective ways to gain control of your life.
- Phy