A relationship is like a good computer: it does exactly what you need it to do for you when it’s well maintained, and when you can do without it for a little while, you can put it on hibernate, but only because you’ve established how important it is to you with all of the hardware you’ve put in. Hard work, same difference. In the same way, if neglect arises more often than not, prepare for the worst: we’ve all seen the screen. It’s blue, and shows just how much of our perseverance and quality time spent we’ll never be able to get back. A relationship crashing can be avoided though, no matter how unfit its participants. Reconnecting should be a way to do that, but so many are reluctant to, so many are almost afraid to even greet, never mind have a conversation, with someone that they knew at one point in their lives. It seems like fear of being forgotten, or neglected yourself, gets in the way. Though if you don’t take the first step, then who will? I think one of the most painful things that someone can experience is a deteriorating relationship. I’ll gladly reconnect, even given the risk that the other person may not be willing to do the same. And for you guys?
- Eric
Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’
Re:Connecting
Thursday, August 18th, 2011
Crush
Wednesday, August 17th, 2011
We all have crushes sometime in our lives. We like a person and we hope that they like us back. We may flirt with them hoping that they get the hint. Sometimes it doesn’t end up the way you want it to but that is fine. For every person who rejects you, think of it this way there are a thousand other people who would love to be with you. You just need to find the right person and connect. Also if you like the person say something of course, rejection should only last a few minutes because like I said there are other people out there. But what if you can’t tell if that person likes you and you are very shy, well for girls, guys will make it a point to talk to you. If they are interested they will want to talk to you forever. For guys, girls are really easy, if you can tell she is nervous around you that may be a sign.
- Tatiana
Get It Right
Thursday, August 4th, 2011
In dealing with friends sometimes, isn’t it so frustrating at times when you just can’t “get it right”? The words that need to be said won’t come to you, but every other one would love to; it’s as if whatever common sense you have about friendships, or even relationships, has flown out the window, and you feel like you just want to take the plunge right after it. I don’t know about for your guys, but mending a broken relationship, friendly or otherwise, is one of the most terrifying things that I could ever put on my to-do list, right behind admitting that there’s the possibility that, somewhere in there, I’ve gone wrong. I think the fear behind it is that if it can go far enough to require time apart the split can reach far enough to separate, splintered earth and all, because that’s just how violently the emotions flew. I always put so much worth in being the bigger person in situations like this, probably because it’s so easy to at times, though I think sometimes, rather than doing it for the sake of the other person, be the bigger person and actually see just what hand you played in this natural disaster we like to call friendship. Uncover your own fears of messing it up by admitting a fault to yourself. In the end it all makes “getting it right”, making it right, feel so right. I’ve tried it recently, we’ll see how it plays out soon enough. Opinions?
- Eric
Trust
Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011
Trust is a huge factor in many relationships. Parents and children need to have a trusting relationship. If there is no trust in the relationship, there is usually a lot of tension and fights that might occur. Friendships and love relationships also need to have trust to last. You need to be able to trust a friend to be there for you. You also need to be able to trust them that they won’t turn their back on them. This works both ways no matter what. In love relationships trust is a huge factor. If you don’t trust your partner then jealousy or many fights may occur. Paranoia also comes up. What if that person loses your trust but you still want to be friends or stay together, how can you gain trust back up? It can be hard but it is possible. The best thing is to forgive that person for what they did. If it is not that easy then the relationship should be ended.
- Tatiana